What is Codependency?
Codependency is an emotional and behavioural condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy and mutually satisfying relationship, particularly with a close partner. It is often known as ‘relationship addiction’ and most commonly affects spouses, siblings, parents or friends, particularly those who themselves have a destructive addiction to mood altering substances, i.e. drugs or alcohol, or a behavioural problem such as gambling or workaholism.
A codependent person will often sacrifice their own needs in favour of the ‘sick’ or ‘needy’ person they wish to take care of. They do not see this as being unhealthy behaviour as they believe they have good intentions for that particular individual. They often have low self-esteem and are looking for something, or someone, to make them feel better. They are often ‘manipulated’ by the other person’s behaviour, resulting in further emotional insecurity.
Are you Codependent?
The individual is usually so enmeshed in the other person’s personal issues that they fail to realise there is actually a problem with their behaviour. Some of the following points can indicate a possible co-dependent relationship:
- Taking on responsibility for and control of another person’s life (caretaking behaviour).
- Making changes to their own personal plans to fit around someone else’s.
- Trying to solve other people’s problems and soliciting unwanted advice.
- Perfectionism.
- Showing an unhealthy amount of care and energy towards another individual by putting that person’s needs before their own.
- Protecting others from circumstances that might upset them.
- Displaying low self-esteem and a fear of rejection for not being ‘good enough’. Generally undervaluing their ability to manage on their own.
- Difficulty in setting boundaries.
The Consequences of Codependency
The consequences of co-dependency can be both emotional and physical. These can include some or all of the following:
- Emotional Problems
- Stress
- Anxiety
- Addiction
- Lethargy
- Depression
- Relationship difficulties
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Physical Problems - Physical problems are often the result of codependent behaviour being left untreated. These can include:
- High blood pressure
- Skin disorders
- Migraines
- Insomnia and sleep disorders
- Ulcers
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Seeking help for Codependency
Codependency can be successfully treated through regular individual and group psychotherapy sessions, although if substance abuse or other behavioural problems are involved, then a residential in-patient stay is the recommended primary course of action. Ongoing group support gradually enhances self-esteem and helps the individual to recreate healthy boundaries with those closest to them. |
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For further information regarding treatment for codependency, please feel free to contact one of our First4Rehab advisors, either by phone or email. Or if you prefer, drop us a text on the mobile number listed below.
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